Perspective and Choice: Embracing “I Could” Over “I Should”

May 14, 2024 ◊ By Jane Kluttz ◊ Balance

Do you ever catch yourself pondering your life in terms of "I should" versus "I could"?

It's a subtle yet profound shift in perspective that can have a significant impact on how we approach our goals, dreams, and everyday challenges. Especially when it comes to our movement patterns.

The Limitations of "I Should Thinking"

"I should" is often loaded with obligations, expectations, and limitations ( I should go to the Gym, Yoga, fill in any physical activity here_____). This thinking habit keeps us focused on external pressures or self-imposed standards that may not align with our true desires or capabilities.

When we constantly tell ourselves "I should do this", we place unnecessary constraints on our potential. It's like building barriers around our aspirations before we even give them a chance to flourish.

Embracing an “I Could Mindset”

On the other hand, "I could" carries a sense of possibility and empowerment. It opens the door to exploration, innovation, and growth. Instead of fixating on what we think we should be doing or what we believe we can't achieve, we start to focus on what we could do and what we are capable of achieving.

Embracing an "I could" mindset means recognizing the myriad of opportunities available to us and being open to pursuing them. It's about acknowledging that there's more than one path to success and more than one pace for that matter.

Adding this kind of thinking to our daily activities expands our movement potential. When we choose to believe in our abilities and trust in our capacity to overcome challenges. It's about shifting our inner dialogue from self-doubt to self-assurance. Even “I can’t!” easily becomes “I can’t, yet but I am working on it and I will get there in time!”.

Cultivating a Can-Do Attitude

So, how can we cultivate this can-do attitude in our lives?

  1. Challenge Your Assumptions: Question the validity of your "should" statements. Are they based on facts or just fears and assumptions? Replace them with "could" and "can" and see how it changes your perspective.
  2. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your aspirations into manageable goals and focus on what you can do to achieve them. Celebrate your progress along the way, no matter how small.
  3. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself when setbacks occur. Remember that setbacks are opportunities for learning and growth, not reasons to give up.
  4. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Surround yourself with people who encourage and inspire you to believe in your potential. Limit exposure to negativity and naysayers.
  5. Visualize Success: Visualize yourself succeeding in your endeavors.Envision the steps you need to take and the outcomes you desire. Positive visualization can help reinforce your belief in what you can achieve.


In life's movement, the choice between "I should" or "I could," ultimately shapes our experiences and determines our outcomes. By embracing an "I could" mentality and cultivating a can-do attitude, we empower ourselves to navigate challenges with resilience, pursue our passions with purpose, and live a life filled with possibilities.

So, the next time you find yourself contemplating your next move, ask yourself, "What could I do? What can I achieve?" You might be surprised by the answers and the doors they open.

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